When someone you love leaves this world, it is hard to say goodbye. Your mind is flooded with memories of the good times and the bad. Your senses are filled with the scent of their cooking or favourite perfume. You hear their voice everywhere you go and smile at things that you know would have amused them. The world in which you live in becomes a little greyer and you start to wonder if you will ever feel normal again.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve the passing of a life. Don’t let anyone ever tell you that you are supposed to do this or that because they are wrong. Everyone deals with it in their own way and that is how it must be. To deny this grief will only delay it and drag the pain and hurt on for longer than is healthy. Everyone has their own ideas of how to cope; all you can do is listen to yourself and do what feels right.
It takes a long, long time to accept that this is the way of the world. One day you are going about your everyday life and then the next it is shattered into a thousand pieces and scattered on the floor, you try to pick up the broken pieces in a hurry but cut yourself and make it worse. You should have got a dust pan and brush and approached with caution.
What’s that saying again? Life is cruel? It is; it really is. But what I try to focus on is the beauty that this world has to offer and to celebrate the life that the person who has passed lived. I was sitting in the garden today with my son who was playing in his paddling pool and it struck me how wonderful life can be. That there are so many moments we take for granted, the birds singing happily in the trees, the flowers dancing in the wind and the sky painted a beautiful blue for all to look upon and get lost in its beauty.
It’s that nasty vicious circle of life, there’s nothing to stop the bony hands of fate. It all comes for us at some point or other whether we are ready for it or not. But until then it is time to live my life and make memories that will be passed down for hundreds of years by my family and friends. We are immortal, we humans with our photos, videos and memories. We are never ever truly gone and when we do pass, it’s just another adventure to look forward to.
I shall leave you with this song because its just beautiful and this scene always makes me cry. I warn you now it will make you cry! <3 <3 <3
Hop hop wiggle wiggle